Being bisexual can still be a confusing and stigmatized experience for many people. Despite the growing acceptance of LGBTQIA+ individuals in society, bi-phobia continues to pervade media, politics, and even personal relationships.
Pervasive stereotypes and cultural myths can make it harder for those who identify as bisexual to feel safe, supported, and self-accepting. It’s crucial to confront these myths and provide accurate information about what it means to be bisexual. In this post, we’re debunking five damaging myths about being bisexual and affirming the unique experiences and identities of our bisexual clients and young people.
Myth #1: Bisexuality is a phase or a choice that people quickly grow out of.
Fact: Bisexuality, like any other sexual orientation, is a valid expression of desire and attraction that can be lifelong, monogamous or fluid. Just as people don’t choose to be straight or gay, they don’t choose to be bisexual. Bisexual identity can be complicated by biphobia, heterosexism, or homophobia in society, which can make it harder to develop a sense of self and feel accepted by others. It’s important to validate and support bisexuality as a valid and complex identity.
Myth #2: Bisexual people are promiscuous or unfaithful.
Fact: Bisexual people can be monogamous, polyamorous, or celibate. Just like any sexual orientation, bisexuality does not determine one’s sexual behavior or ethics. Bisexual individuals are no more or less likely to cheat on their partners than straight or gay people. It is important to challenge these harmful stereotypes that can lead to negative assumptions and expectations by others in relationships.
Myth #3: Bisexual people cannot commit to a long-term relationship.
Fact: Bisexual people can have deep, committed, and loving relationships of any length or type. Just like any sexual orientation, bisexuality does not determine one’s ability to form meaningful or healthy relationships. Bisexual individuals may experience unique challenges in relationships such as biphobia or bi-erasure from partners or the society, but that doesn’t mean they are unable to be fully invested in relationships.
Myth #4: Bisexual people are equally attracted to all genders.
Fact: Bisexuality can be experienced in many ways, and it is up to the individual to define and understand their attraction to others. Some bisexual individuals may experience attraction differently or may be more attracted to certain genders in certain contexts or at different times in their lives. It’s important to honor and respect the diversity of bisexual experiences and not make assumptions about who they will be attracted to or how they will express their sexuality.
Myth #5: Bisexuality is not a “real” or “legitimate” sexual orientation.
Fact: Bisexuality is a valid and real experience, just like any sexual orientation. Biphobia and bi-erasure can create cultural and institutional biases against people who identify as bisexual and may lead to harmful attitudes or stereotypes that devalue or demonize their identity. As with any sexual orientation, bisexuality is a complex and personal expression of sexual and emotional desires that deserves respect, support, and inclusion.
Final Thoughts
By challenging these myths and stereotypes about bisexuality, we can create a more accepting and affirming world for those who identify as bisexual. As therapists, allies, and educators, we can help our clients and young people to overcome the stigma, shame and confusion due to harmful myths about bisexuality.
It is essential to create a safe and supportive environment in which individuals can embrace and express their full selves, regardless of their sexual orientation. Let’s keep working towards breaking down the prejudice and promote greater respect, understanding, and empowerment for the bisexual community.