We've all been there. We scroll through our social media feeds, comparing ourselves to other people and obsessing over how they perceive us. We worry about the opinions of complete strangers that have no bearing on our lives, and we become emotionally drained in the process. This is a futile exercise—so why do we keep doing it?
The reality is that worrying too much about what others think can lead to poor mental health and low self-esteem. But how can we break this cycle? Fortunately, there are steps we can take to learn to stop the comparison and worry game—and create healthy self-esteem in the process!
Focus On Your Own Goals And Values
The first step towards breaking free from worrying about what other people think is to focus on your own goals and values. Make a list of what you want for yourself, such as career goals or personal aspirations you have.
This will help you focus on what matters most in your life instead of worrying about what others are doing or thinking about you. It's important to stay focused on your own path, rather than trying to please everyone else around you.
Identify Your Triggers
Part of breaking the worrying game is being aware of what triggers our need for validation from others in the first place. Once we identify these triggers, we can more easily address them instead of using them as an excuse for why our self-worth comes from outside sources.
For example, if you find yourself comparing your life to someone else's because they seem to have the perfect relationship or take ideal vacations, remind yourself that you are comparing their outsides to your insides. Meaning, you have no idea what might be going on below the surface of someone else's life. Instead, replace the negative thoughts that come up about yourself such as “I'm not good enough” or “I'm not worthy” with supportive ones like “I am doing my best” or “I am enough just as I am".
Or, if social media in general triggers feelings of inadequacy, try taking a break altogether. A social media detox isa great way to remove triggers and focus on yourself.
Challenge Yourself To Try New Things
Another way to stop worrying about other people's opinions is to challenge yourself with new experiences. Trying something new can help build confidence in yourself and make you feel more comfortable in your own skin.
Whether it’s signing up for a class or joining a club or organization, these activities can provide an outlet for creative energy while also giving you something else to focus on besides others’ opinions of you.
Surround Yourself With Positive People Who Support You
Finally, one of the best ways to stop worrying about what other people think is by surrounding yourself with positive people who support you unconditionally. Make sure that the people around you believe in your potential and appreciate who you are as an individual — not just someone who needs validation from others all the time!
Connecting with supportive friends or family members who lift each other up can be incredibly beneficial when trying to break away from self-doubt caused by outside perceptions of us.
Final Thoughts
Worrying too much about how others perceive us is an emotional drain that keeps us from reaching our full potential - but thankfully, it doesn't have to be that way. By focusing on our own goals and values, challenging ourselves with new experiences, and surrounding ourselves with positive people who support us unconditionally - we can create better mental health, better self-esteem - and ultimately - live a more fulfilling life overall.
So don't let anyone hold you back from being your authentic self - go out there and show the world who YOU are meant to be! And if you need more support along the way, reach out to us at Elevate Counseling to schedule time to chat with one of our amazing therapists.